男女之間友誼的最高境界

其實男女之間的友誼是人的一種高尚的感情,是介乎於愛情和友情之間的一種情感。這種感情她本身不是愛人,不是情人,但又超出一般朋友,這種感情是不言愛,更不言性。但會令你心動,卻又不會動情;讓你溫暖,但不會有激情,純淨中有甜美,平淡中有綿長。

 

有一句話比喻是最貼切的,那就是:站在不遠不近的地方去欣賞對方。這種感情在於心的了解,精神的交融,兩人的心貼的很近,身體卻離的很遠,這是一種精神層次的柏拉圖,只有理性的人才能做出。只有理智人才能得到。

 

兩個人在一起時,有著精神上的默契,有著心靈的統一,他們可以談愛情,談婚姻,談未來,可以無所顧及地談人生所有的問題,心有靈犀,心意相通,相知相惜。互相扶持,互相敬重。

 

感覺像情人,卻無情人間的那種膩味;感覺像兄妹,卻沒有兄妹間的那份莊重,隨意但莊重,親密但理性,相知而無私,擁有這種感情的兩個人,不會當自己是異性,他們可以緊緊的握手,也可能會結結實實的擁抱,但那與性無關,是友愛是欣賞,是思無邪,而絕不是欲望,不是占有。

 

他們會一起欣賞尼采,會一起探討拜倫,但絕不是互送一朵小花。他們可以一起去郊遊,可以一起去喝酒,到了車站,說聲拜拜,各走各的路,不用相約,不用相守,不用膩膩歪歪假裝分不了手,輕輕鬆鬆帶著尊嚴走自己回家的路。

 

那種感覺是美妙的,那種味道是讓人難喻的。當然那份異性的吸引也不否認,偶爾也會有那麽幾份刹那令人情不自禁,悄悄流露幾許愛慕之意,也確難免,他感覺到了,她也感覺到了,那是握手的瞬間的輕微的感覺,那是擁抱朦胧的沖動,但是當他們擡頭再看看澄澈的天空,對望一下彼此無私的眼眸,他們就會知道:有些東西比愛情更持久,更值得追求。

 

擁有這種感情,也會有痛苦,有無奈,同時也有快樂,也有讓你說不清的無盡享受。因爲這種感情畢竟存在男女異性之間,不是愛情,卻又接近愛情,更可以超越愛情,這種感情變數很大,最難把握,所依持的就是彼此間的矜持和尊重,死守的就是最後一道防線。

 

因爲這種感情,至情至性的人才會有,大智大慧的人才會有,冰雪聰明的人才會有。因爲他們必須明白:愛情很奢侈,就像玻璃瓶一樣美麗而易碎,要擁有這份感情,就必須遠離愛和性。因而心照不宣,心知肚明。一層薄薄的紙使這種關係理會具魅力和生命力。有距離才有美感;有距離才能欣賞;有距離才能永遠。只有理性的男人;只有聰慧的女人,才配擁有這份情意,也才能維持這份情意,紅男綠女,庸俗男女不會,也不配擁有這種感情。

 

我相信這種屬於男女私情之外的至真至純,難尋難覓的,需要刻意疏離又需精心呵護的感情是存在的。這是一種奇妙的感情,自然坦誠而潇灑,也是最高最美境界的淡然。

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