相愛的人要懂得珍惜

聽來一個這樣的故事:有位男子邀請了幾位朋友來家裏做客,男子抽煙一支又一支。她的妻子輕輕地打開了窗戶,沒有言語。有一朋友悄悄問那妻子,你怎麼不阻止他抽煙呢?抽煙有害身體呀。那妻子笑了笑,說,對他來說,抽煙是快樂的,如果他能活八十歲,我寧願他快樂地生活六十年,而不願意他不快樂地多活二十年。這話讓那男子知道了,他便戒掉了煙。朋友問他為何能這麼容易地戒掉了煙,他說,我有這麼好的老婆,我為什麼要選擇少活二十年呢?

愛,是心靈與心靈的相知,它可以不要太多的語言來粉飾。真正相愛的人,會毫不計較地為情感付出,唯一的期盼只是對方的疼惜;真正相愛的人,會處處時時牽掛著對方,給他(她)以關懷體貼;真正相愛的人,一個動作,一個眼神,都能心領神會,那份相知的默契勝卻一切物質帶來的歡悅。

愛,因為忠誠而專一,因為專一而醉人,因為醉人而無私,因為無私而純潔。古往今來,演繹了多少可歌可泣的愛情故事,令世人感慨,總想著也這樣做一回主角,渴盼覓得知音與自己相伴一生。至少有過一場刻骨銘心的愛,也就無撼此生。可是,又有多少人能在對的時間裏遇到對的人呢?就是遇到了,不懂得珍惜,也會失之交臂。

愛,是一種平等的相處,一種自然的情感延續,它需要一份彼此的理解與尊重。如果僅有一方的付出,愛便會失去正確的方向,甚至發展成畸形,最終塗上悲哀的色彩。有些情感從一開始便走入誤區,因為愛而傾心付出。久而久之養成的習慣令有些人覺得擁有對方的關愛是理所應當的。所以他不再感動,更不會以同樣的關愛來回報對方。

愛,是一種美麗卻又易逝的曇花,只有用心來澆灌,才能開出芬芳的花朵。劉若英在《後來》有一句歌詞唱得極好,有些人,一旦錯過就不再。在我們歎息“得到的不珍惜,失去方知其寶貴”的同時,晏殊在《浣溪沙》裏那句“不如憐取眼前人”是否給我們深刻的啟迪呢?生活的瑣屑,常常會令我們忽略自己的愛人,我們總會找許多的理由來為自己辯解、開脫。有些人,甚至做出傷害情感的行為,同時擁有多份情感,還美其名曰:喜新不厭舊。

愛,不是等價交換,它沒有公平的籌碼,但它卻宛如一架天平,兩端的砝碼不等,便會傾斜,差得太大時,便會失去重心。有人在婚姻的圍城裏,過得很累,筋疲力盡,但責任與道義感的存在,他們依舊毅然地支撐下去;有人在婚姻裏真正找到了溫馨幸福的歸屬,也許他們的生活並不很富裕,但卻擁有最寶貴的財富——發自內心的快樂。

真正愛一個人,是可以無私的付出,但愛又是具有排它性的,從這個角度說,愛也是自私的。重情重義的人,是不可能同時愛著兩個人的。人的一生,可以愛多個人,但那絕不會是在同一個階段。因為種種原因,不同的階段,也許會有不同的情感,只要我們用心對待,就能無怨無悔。生活可以是枯燥的,也可以是生動有趣的,就取決於我們對待人生的態度。

愛就像一串珠子,斷了一處,珠子就會依次掉滿一地。細心地呵護,珠子就會燦然發光;漫不經心,珠子就會散落無形。就如故事中的講到的男子一樣,如果他不用心去領悟妻子的一番愛意,那麼他是不會去戒掉自己鍾愛的煙的。

其實幸福很簡單,有語云:婚姻需要經營。的確,善於經營者,便會收穫幸福;不善於經營者,得到的只能是苦澀的青果。而這經營婚姻的精髓就是雙方互相的懂得。唯有懂得,愛更能情意綿綿;唯有懂得,愛更添溫馨無限;唯有懂得,愛方能經歷彌新!愛,需要懂得,懂得關心,懂得體貼,懂得一切為愛而應該付出的所有。

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